Friday, January 1, 2010

Choosing Civility

Choosing-Civility-Twenty-five-Considerate-Conduct is a book by P.M. Forni of the John Hopkins Civility Project.

"To live a long, healthy and serene life we need the crucial help of a network of caring people – we need social support. In order to gain and keep social support we need social skills. Choosing Civility re-discovers and expounds the essential skills that allow us to live well among others.

The 25 Rules of Considerate Conduct:

1. Pay attention

2. Acknowledge others

3. Think the best

4. Listen

5. Be inclusive

6. Speak kindly

7. Don't speak ill

8. Accept and give praise

9. Respect even a subtle "no"

10. Respect others' opinions

11. Mind your body

12. Be agreeable

13. Keep it down (and rediscover silence)

14. Respect other people's time

15. Respect other people's space

16. Apologize earnestly

17. Assert yourself

18. Avoid personal questions

19. Care for your guests

20. Be a considerate guest

21. Think twice before asking for favors

22. Refrain from idle complaints

23. Accept and give constructive advice

24. Respect the environment and be gentle to animals

25. Don't shift responsibility and blame

From Barefoot in the Orchard via Desire to Inspire.